No one chooses to become a victim, yet victims of con men and con women are treated as though they chose that? Why? Sweetheart scams are very common and trying to persecute the crimes the criminals perpetuate on their victims is time consuming, frustrating, and sometimes very disappointing.
I didn't chose to be the victim of William Michael Barber. He chose me! He chose me because he saw my quest for love as his way to get and obtain easy money. He used my credit, he used my career, and he used me to charm his way into a life that he wanted to lead at the time.
When his lies were starting to unravel around him, he sought other victims and found at least 20. I know that I had found his list but that was after he left me devastated and homeless, and financially destitute.
I had no one to turn to, and wasn't about to ask my father to help, in the end after staying with
friends, I had no choice. It wasn't a choice I turned to easily, because being in love with a con man made me feel inadequate, insecure, and unable to trust anyone around me.
Suddenly everyone looked like liars: Why? Because Christopher James Micheal Barber used a different name and social security number with me, he was not who he said he was!
He never was a pro football player that was the tightend for the Houston Oilers, nor was he a Vietnam War Veteran POW. He never had a college education, and he never ever was a practicing doctor. Maybe in his dreams he was....but the reality was this:
He broke the law over and over again. Numerous times, he is a deserter of the Army, and a fraud. He did not use his real name for 35 years. He committed various types of crimes, and will continue to do so.
Is it irony that he is homeless? I guarantee he won't stay that way...he will bounce back faster than a jack rabbit leaping over a cactus. He holds no emotion for the harm that he did his victims, even the littlest ones, that he so called claimed as his grand kids. They are not his and never will be his. AMEN TO THAT!
My sons have a father that SERVED his country honorably. He works hard for his money just like everyone else that is honorable does.
I have taught since 1988. My only crime is that I loved and trusted a criminal. GULLIBLE?
Yes, looking towards rose-colored glasses? YES, but never more, never more.
Justice may be blind in some cases, but I have found, that for every victim there is someone who is strong enough to keep fighting to put the habitual offender in jail for the rest of their life.
Yes, I am always looking over my shoulders, thinking that Barber is coming after me. Yes, most folks think that he won't do anything, but I am not presumptuous to know what a criminal mind thinks about, and am not taking any chances.
I just hope for different reasons that William Michael Barber who was really born in 1951 is now counting the days when his freedom of probation is going to end. Someday, somehow, I will see justice for real, and he cannot harm another person again with his lies.